Is Love Truly Worth the Fight? by booger on Blogster

Let me start off by saying that I have been so blessed to have had the best friend i could ask for for the past 7 years. The last 4 of these he has been my everything. He is my friend, my joy, and my love.

For the past week or so he had been acting rather odd. Like he was always on edge or something. He finally told me Thursday what was bothering him. There have been a few things that I have yet to demonstrate on behalf of my character. All of these being traits not favorable for someone he wants to look to end up with. Many of them I agree with. So he is tired of waiting and trying. It is over. He says he loves me and is happy most of the time, but it is still, over.

After again speaking to him Friday morning, he said he just thinks he needs a break. An indefinite break, but a break nonetheless.

Needless to say, I have not stopped crying for days. However, I am a little more accepting of the break. I mean there is a big difference between a break and a break up, right? A break signifies the desire to eventually get back together, right?

The biggest problem is, I don't want this. I would do most anything to make it all just go away. Every morning I wake up and feel great, and then I remember. The rest of the day falls from there. Anytime I hear something interesting, or funny, or just anything, my first reaction is to call him.

Here's the question:

If there is a chance that things will work out, should you fight? Should you do anything to make it work? Should you put your faith in your love and do whatever it takes?

12 comments on Is Love Truly Worth the Fight?

ChihulahuaLover said 2 years ago
Wow! I am sorry. I for one think that love is worth fighting for. I believe it also depends on if he is willing to fight for it too. I don't think it can just be one doing all the fighting. In my opinion that wouldn't work. I hope that things get better and work out for you for the best. And for your best interests.[HEART][SAD] Hang in there. And welcome to blogster.

Jenn[SMILE]
blog said 2 years ago
Welcome to Blogster!
royalty said 2 years ago
Don't let the rest of your days fall from your thoughts about him. You were not put on the planet for your days to be consumed with the what if's of this relationship. Love accepts the flaws and imperfections, it doesn't try to change us to fit a perceived expectation of what a relationship should be. Use the negative way he is going about this to benefit yourself. Begin to look inward to discover the real issues going on inside of you. Example> If you don't get back, what fears are you feeling? What are the real emotions going on that ruin your blessed day when you think of him. Know thyself, and guard your heart, for out of it flows the issues of life! Welcome![HEART]
tojoclub said 2 years ago
Two people may love and care for each other, but without a shared higher vision, they have nothing to bond them eternally. Such a bond is necessary, for, besides being two strangers with different personalities and backgrounds, a man and a woman differ biologically, emotionally, and psychologically and will undergo many transitions in their lives.
dav1d said 2 years ago
love is allways worth fighting for, even sacrificing ones life for, if a gun was pointed at my child, my lover, my friend i would jump in front and take the shot, love is powerfull, but somethimes painfull.[WINK]
organizedchaos said 2 years ago
I'm not really sure what the problem is here, is he wanting you to do something you dont want. Or have you done something he doesnt like. Either way round he should be accepting of you as you are, and a break up, no matter how short is his way of starting to control what you do or dont do. Let him know that you are what you are and dont change. Good luck and welcome[SMILE]
KDawg said 2 years ago
love is a farce...
I am a wee bit bitter at the moment though...[HEART]
arteCajemeart said 2 years ago
Let it go away. When someone wants to break up a relation is beter to let it be, because you can not stop destiny.
Francisco
Blogdreamz said 2 years ago
I have been married for 25 years and having a relationship is hard work. You need to sit with yourself and ask can you see a future with this person? If not, then I think it is best to find that person or let love find you. We all need breaks. I do, and run to my house up in Vermont. He seems like he is confused what to do. First, he says it's over and then says he needs a break. Just what does he need a break from? Is he waiting for you to do something about the relationship and going a step further and your holding back? If he is someone you want to be with love is being patiences and giving that person the time they need to sort out what ever it is that's bothering them. Perhaps you should take advantage of this break and find out what you want as well.

Good Luck!
ambereyes said 1 years ago
i agree with blogdreamz. my partner and i took a break...he didn't know if he was ready. give him the space he needs and you enjoy it while it last!
thetuck said 2 years ago
People can change their behaviors, but not their personality.
You can sit and be bored at the local ballpark with him, if that's what he wants. You can go to the sushi place and sip a coke and watch him eat raw fish. You can vacuum the carpet every day, even if it doesn't look dirty to you.
You can take French lessons so you can talk dirty to him in a foreign language if that's what he wants. There's one thing you cannot do - you cannot turn into a different person for him. If you're not the person he is really looking for, be glad you found out now, wish him luck on his search, and be grateful for the happy time you had. Then get on with your life. Eventually you'll run into a guy who happens to prefer the person you are, and if you're lucky, you'll be into him, too. If not, I hear they're always looking to recruit new nuns. [ROLLEYES]
earthsnakeknight said 2 years ago
if you feel he's worth the fight, go for it. thats because when u reach out to your destiny, the world, will be on your side.